5 type of people to avoid!

As we know some people have strong personalities and some are weak. The strong personalities influence others easily. As long as you do not harm others, you have the right to stand up for yourself and defend your rights. I have personally come across a lot of different personalities. Every human being is trying to achieve his/her goals, dreams. We all struggle with tricky, sticky problems from time to time. We all have to go through a process called LIFE.  Most of us need a balance of being on our own and being with others. 

Today I want to share the main 5 types you should try and avoid for the sake of your own mental health.

The Gossiper:

This person will talk to you about everyone but as soon as they get a chance they will talk about you as well. These type of people have low self esteem, jealousy and they find it hard to accept other people. They raise their attention by putting others in the worst scenarios. The gossiper has no problem sharing stories and creating some along the way. They don’t follow the rules which they advice to others. Society is full with these kind of people, but best way to deal with them is just refuse to be part of their gossip sessions. You will find them everywhere, in family, friends and at work.

The Know- It- All:

I know many of these, people have experiences based on the knowledge they have, and usually its good to know someone like that but we always come across someone who is an expert of all! They are so insecure at times that in order to feel superior they must make you feel stupid.

These are the people who say things without checking their facts. They will make up stories about everything you will mention. As much as we want to be the experts in everything we cannot be. Successful people have skills, knowledge and experience in specific fields, which can be more than one — but even they won’t know everything.

The Manipulators:

Manipulators drive you crazy because their behaviour is so irrational. They know how to detect your weakness and how to use it against you. Its a psychological game! These are found mostly in your families so look around you. The reason I am saying this I don’t think outsiders have the power to manipulate you as much your family does, speaking from experience. Skilled manipulators have a way of twisting a conversation to suit their needs. They will do something to hurt you and when you express how you feel about it, they’ll turn the situation around, make you feel guilty and end up justifying their actions. We meet these people in our daily lives, at home, at work. Their motives are almost always self-serving, and they have little interests in how you feel or how their behaviours impact you and your life.

By the way emotional blackmailing is an another form of manipulating behaviour, the process in which an individual makes demands and want others to give up their plans, dreams for them. I would say it is a form of psychological abuse, Their demands are often intended to control other people’s behaviour through unhealthy ways. These kind of people don’t like being told off! Their right and wrongs are based on their understandings because they claim to know how the world should be, how you should act and of course by their rules!

Overly Nice People

“I am a really nice person”, Well that’s a hint already. People shouldn’t have to tell you what they are, because their behaviours often describe their personalities. Constant niceness is a façade, and not a good one. I’ll say it again! there’s nothing wrong with being nice, but too much of anything is harmful. If we over eat our stomach will be hurting, If we over sleep we will feel weird, moody etc. Anything that’s too much for our body to handle, it will effect us in a bad way so the same goes for our mental health. These kind of people have the patience and know how to be nice all the time because its their way of getting what they need from you.

Narrow Minded People

Older generations are usually tied with the ideas and upbringing they had when they were growing up. But in 2020 we still come across people who do not cope well with change, narrow-minded people may see change as inherently negative. These kind of people would make quick and absolute judgments about others. He or she will lack the ability to see the complexity in human behaviour. Sometimes it helps to have a conversation with them and you can be respectful, but also stand up for yourself. Do not blame or demean the person, but assert your rights and feelings. It’s important to teach people how to treat others better. I am not saying it will always work but at least you won’t feel guilty about not having tried and also they will be aware of what your thoughts are about their behaviour.

Having said all that, it is also interesting to consider the reasons why someone might behave this way. This sometime helps us understand how to manage these people and how to respond.

Our personal life circumstances, past negative experiences can have a huge impact on our personalities which can lead to mental illness, low confidence. So maybe these people also suffered something which is making them behave this way.