People who fail, get criticism from their families, friends and sometimes managers at work. But I believe it is important to fail in order to succeed because through failure we learn and grow. This has been proved again and again on various occasions. If we look at the big examples in the world to name a few Bill Gates, Jack Ma and J.K Rowling. However still failure is often seen as a negative and fear of failure leads us to take less risks, which in turn impacts our growth and success. We need to ensure we celebrate failures as well as successes. Too often all people see is the final product, not how many prototypes failed, which results in a perception that you can’t fail or should only speak up when your idea is sure to succeed.
I promise you, I have failed many times and continue to fail on a daily basis. However I view failure as a source of strength, to do better and be better. I don’t think failing is ever easy. In fact, in our lives we will experience at least twice as many failures as we do successes. This could be in any part of the life from missing the shot in a big game to a huge career fumble, the feeling of disappointment and temptation to self-criticise that follows is inevitable.
Its is impossible to live without failing at something
In times like these, we need a little change of perspective. A failure is almost always an opportunity for growth and learning. There are times when it gets too much to handle, and then questions arise like why me? But still failures should be treated as lessons and i will share what I’ve learned from not getting it right too many times to count. But we need to stop looking at problems like they are bad things and I understand this is easy said than done!
1. Be less emotional
Being emotional is good at times, but not always. Learning to deal with issues without emotional attachment, using object thinking, is the key for the long run. Of course people could be judgemental about it, but who cares right!? Because your problems will stay till they are dealt with so crying and cursing wont resolve them. If it’s related to people, once again if they care they will be still there with you.
2. Stop overthinking
Sometimes we already start making assumptions before we’ve even heard the whole thing or understood the overall situation. I do that as well sometime, it’s very normal but making assumptions always leads to misunderstandings and causes more issues. We over think about the situations but also the outcomes. Our brain has a thing for guessing and finding patterns. Humans are very resilient and adaptable machines, they can adopt to different environments, foods. We have far more mental mechanisms to say that we can’t than to say that we can.
3. Be present
Anxiety is the excess of future in your mind, and depression is the excess of past. Don’t let those irrelevant factors suck your energy. Don’t underestimate them;, they are the killer factors of this generation. Mental health is one of the major causes of suicides all around the world. We take life so serious that we forget we are humans and road blocks, obstacles are all going to be part of our life. The quicker we accept this the better. The outcome of a situation is based on infinite variables that change every day. Every time you fail and start again it will be counted as a new beginning.
The greatest lesson we learn from failures is to always make sure we execute on our ideas.
4. Life is movement
Clock will keep ticking and we have to keep moving with it… If you don’t care, you won’t give all you’ve got. It’s a fact. If it doesn’t excite you, if it doesn’t challenge you, probably it won’t engage your full potential. You need to make sure you do what you actually like and give your 100%. Because failing is not easy you have to do something in order to fail otherwise you only need to do nothing. However when you try, you create a possibility of success even if you failed this time. The problems will be there tomorrow, ignoring them won’t solve them. There will be always problems, but the important thing is learning how to master them instead of letting them master you. If you start the race first, you improve your chances of arriving first.
I believe success is about the journey and what we learn along the way.
